Let me go back and explain my purpose here…

I have been realizing that my blog seems really negative and may be kind of depressing. I do NOT want my posts to just be full of complaints about how terrible my childhood was. Right now, I have a pretty great life! I live in a nice house with 4 fantastic roommates, I work 2 jobs that I absolutely love, and best of all I have a wonderful, loving, caring, supportive boyfriend, and he is my best friend in the whole world.

Was it easy getting to this point in my life? ABSOLUTELY NOT. But I did it! I’m still working on it! Life is wayyyyyy better than it was.

There are 3 main points I want to make right now.

1. You don’t have to finish in the same place you started.

People start off in terrible situations, and people end up in terrible situations, and in both cases most people feel as if there is no chance for anything to ever get better.

But there is ALWAYS hope.

I started from the bottom, but I am also successful so far. Just because I was suffered in my childhood doesn’t mean I have to continue to suffer in my adulthood.

I’m in the time of my life where I am figuring out who I am and what I am going to be. I am NOT a victim, I’m NOT going to just blame things on my past, and I am NOT going to be abusive in the future.

You can make the same decisions if you choose to.

2. Life is hard and you shouldn’t go through it alone.

Let me be more blunt: DO NOT TRY TO MAKE IT THROUGH YOUR PROBLEMS BY YOURSELF.

You don’t need to!!!! It’s so much easier if you have help!!!

I’m learning how to take control of my own life, but I’m not going to lie, it’s a long, hard process. I know I’m not alone in going through it, and I don’t want anyone else to feel alone while they’re going through it either. There’s always help and guidance you can receive, and there are many ways to receive it. This is the order (number one being the most helpful) of people I receive help from:

1. My heavenly Father

2. My boyfriend

3. My Church leaders

4. My counselor

5. My friends’ parents

6. My friends

If you are looking for people to help you through your trials, you can get some ideas of who to turn to from my list, or maybe you have a different support system.

The most important thing is to let people help you.

3. Ask and you shall receive, knock and it shall be opened unto you.

DO NOT feel as if you have no one to turn to. There is ALWAYS at least one person who is willing to help you. But most of the time they won’t come up to you and offer it. Why not? They probably don’t know that you are in need. I can guarantee that if you let someone know you are struggling, and they will help you.

It is so scary trying to talk to someone. It’s really hard. And it hurts a lot at first. At least that’s how I felt. But it is totally worth it. I promise. And I don’t make promises that I can’t keep.

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6 thoughts on “Let me go back and explain my purpose here…

  1. Hi Arizona, I read your blog. It’s eerie how similar our circumstances are. I see that you have started to follow my blog, I want to follow yours, too. Maybe we can get to know each other and you will have one other, as you said, “strong” person on your side.

    • I think that would be wonderful. Life is hard, it’s easier to have someone to help you through it – especially someone who knows what you’re going through.

      • Yeah, I know what you mean. My husband is supportive. He went through the a similar thing, but he doesn’t like to talk about it. It would be nice to talk to someone other than Dr. Tony. I’m 27 and just starting to deal with everything that has happened to me. While I haven’t had the same reaction as you, I do battle anxiety attacks as well. It’s hard. I just try to take it one step at a time.

      • One baby step at a time is as fast as you can take it… It is nice to talk about things to someone besides my counselor. You can definitely talk to me anytime 🙂

      • Thanks. Same goes with me. Do you Skype?

  2. Thank you for stopping by my blog and for following. It blesses my heart to hear that your hope is in God and that you have such a wonderful circle of people to love and encourage you. Blessing sweet girl!

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